Start with the ‘Why’, and the ‘What’ will follow

This post is inspired by an amazing TED talk video that my son shared with us.   This is one of the best TED talks I have seen.   Basically the idea is this:  it examines the phenomenon that all things being equal (meaning available resources), why do some people succeed and some fail miserably?  And comes up with a brilliant and true analysis.  That being, you start with the ‘why’.  Why do I do what I do?  Start with the cause – why do I want to do something, sell something, pursue a career, rather than the result: what do I want to accomplish as a RESULT of what I do.   I won’t repeat what Simon Sinek very brilliantly and clearly explains. (Video link at the end of the post).

What I will do is share my own interpretation and experiences relating to the concept of clarifying the ‘why’.   My experiences with this have made my life that much more purposeful, and meaningful to me.

There was a time when I didn’t think much and just did things for the sake of doing things.  I was, in effect, one of the sheep, chewing and following along.  But somewhere along the way, I started to think and evaluate everything in my life.  I examined every little thing I did, every relationship and friendship I had – and realized that I was carrying around a lot of dead weight and excess baggage that was weighing my journey down.

When I started questioning the motive behind my actions and my associations,  an amazing thing happened.

I got more time to do the things I wanted to do and enjoyed doing by dropping certain things I did just because – just because someone had asked me to, just because everyone else was doing.

I lost some friendships – those that were not based on honesty and truth.  I also gained some friendships.

I made some career moves.  Some that worked, some that didn’t.   Some that are brewing.  I started writing this blog because I needed an outlet for my ‘restlessness’ (which some people have equated wrongly to not being busy enough and therefore restless), and in the process gained some readers.  I didn’t start the blog because everyone was doing it, or because I wanted to become a famous writer (which by the way, I still am not).    I write for my own pleasure and clear my mind of the cobwebs that keep building up.

The result of examining the why of everything that I do?  My journey became lighter and more enjoyable.   That is not to say I am a happy person all the time, and my life is bliss.  No.  My life is still full of ups and downs.  But it’s mostly my choice.   I am in control – for the most part.  And that is a very powerful feeling.

Do watch this video.  As my son wisely said, it’s worth every second of the 18.5 minutes.

If the link doesn’t work, cut and paste the following link in your browser:

It’s truly a transformative talk.



1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. vtkbhoopers
    Nov 18, 2011 @ 14:55:14

    wow!!! ur sun must B genus!!! good article tho.



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